This is the fourth in a series of guest posts ......it's about real struggle..real life...real pain...and getting through to the other side....thank you to all my guests for helping me find my voice....This is an awesome Aussie who can make me laugh and cry in the same minute.
Please show Alejandro Guzman the friend I call (A)...... the love and encouragement you have to me.....
I'm here on Bongo Is Me as Bonnie, Bongo or as I call her BB asked me to, so as to give her a break, a rest or to rue the day she ever asked me to. I was initially asked because BB thought I could bring some light onto a dark site. I was hesitant as I am not what some may think me to be. So I asked myself...Do I have a dark place?
There are two sides to me and my life. I don't know how I come across to others on the www. Some may say I'm humorous, some say I'm naive, others just ignore me or regard me as somewhat of an idiot. All good!
That aside I shall tell you about me or more to the point my reasons I am the way I am.
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From my writings some may think all is wonderful in Oz. Far from it. Living on one income has its challenges regarding payment of bills, petrol, groceries and rent. Yes… we are renting and in the last 4 years we have lived in 3 different domiciles as the owners had decided to sell. For a little girl just turning 3 it's a big deal and a big hassle. The renting? Not our Choice. Circumstances that I won't go into have brought us to where we are.
Some may be saying now, well go out and get a job 'you lazy bum!' My response… I am 42 and have for the very first time become a Father a Dad a Papa. And it's my choice to be a part of her upbringing and I want to cherish every moment whilst Amelie is still young and not attending school. So later maybe I shall look for work. maybe if I wasn't such a 'lazy bum'.
We live week to week by the skin of our teeth, searching for pennies when there is no more milk left, saving on things where we can. I have moments of utter despair and I enter my dark place and ponder or is it regret as to what we have chosen to do. I tend to lock myself away at times so as to feel again the freedom of solitude, where I can just be, with just me. Many times in this dark place I also end up with others on the www and on Facebook.
Some may say I'm humorous where others find my comments insulting. Those are purely your own choice on how you see me. Yet when I'm 'out there' visiting other blogs or interacting on FB I then forget or brush aside my own concerns as I see far worse. My present is from my own choices. Whereas for others it was thrust upon them through no choice of their own.
I am usually "out there' to be helpful or uplifting to others so they may find their beach. As I do find mine when I feel I have brought a smile to someones face. Yes BB I am talking about you!To be very honest when I first visited Bongo Is Me I didn't want to look! I didn't want to be brought down further.
Yet by visiting this Blog I have come to realize that Bongo Is Me is not just Bonnie... it is all of us at some point in time.
Bongo Is Me should read "Bongo Is Us!!!"
Thank you Bonnie. I'll always be here as long as I have the breath or should I say the fingers to give you or anyone my worldly advice such as…
Remember to Flush after every meal! Or is that Brush?
Cheers
Alejandro
Written by by my friend (A) Alejandro Guzman
Thank you A for always encouraging me..
You are an amazing person...an inspiration...and yes you
put a smile on my face XOXOXO
Wow...I really like that! Good job!! Two sides to us all, you are right, I choose to my better self! Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteWonderful guest post Alejandro! Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your everyday life <3
ReplyDeleteThis article is a great addition to your blog!!
ReplyDeleteI am a stay-at-home-mom. I too get called lazy because I don't work outside of the home. Child care just isn't worth and HOPEFULLY it is best for my children to be at home with them.
ReplyDeleteWe ALL have a dark place. How many of us dare to show it?
Thumbs up!!! Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your life, Alejandro! People are so quick to judge,aren't they? Yet they know so little :(
ReplyDeleteAlejandro, you shared feelings that I know some of us can't bring ourselves to say out loud. This is a wonderful thing you are doing, and hopefully, BB will be touched by it as well. It's good for all of us to know that we are not alone, and that we all have a deep pit that things can pile up in and eat away at us.
ReplyDeleteThank you Alejandro for giving us some insights of your life! This is indeed an inspirational post. Many of life's greatest pleasures are from little treasures we cherish in our daily lives. Be happy because you're lucky to have us around...:)
ReplyDeleteExcellent and Honest. A side of you Alejandro I have never seen and am glad you shared it. Truly inspiring and to read that kind of depth from a male is even more inspiring.
ReplyDeleteGreat post Alejandro!!! xo Bonnie!!!!! Little ones are only little for x amount of years. ..so wonderful you get to be there for her. She will love you immensely for it when she gets bigger!
ReplyDeleteThanks again BB for letting me share a part of me on your blog.
ReplyDeleteThanks to all who took the time to read.
Cheers xxx
Great little insight my Lazy friend. I wish I could do what you are doing. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeletecheers.
P.S. We all have a place we want to be at. We should wash ourselves with images and thoughts of this place. I know it might sound harsh but we do choose to be where we are. If you want to really get rid of the darkness just turn your head and look at the light. The universe is in perfect balance. You can not have good without bad, love without hate...... send me a message BB would love to talk.....everything is as it is meant to be!
Personally I think you should pull your socks up and go get a job - you lazy bum LOL :P
ReplyDeleteAlejandro - I would not have you any other way! you to me have the unique ability to just say what you feel and it's not that you don't give a hoot about anyone else because you have proven and not just here that you have the biggest heart there is. It's because you are you and you are not afraid to be you. We accept the choices we make because they are right for us and in doing so we accept that other people have those choices to.
Bongo I'm glad you are getting that break you need, posts like these certainly allow us to see that we have a wonderful connection and network and that for every time we need a little time we have someone special who is more than willing to give it.
Love to both of you x
Too late SJ! Sleeping in are we?
ReplyDeleteLazy bum hehe
Love you and BB Big Kiss
Jim said: Inspiring Alejandro. And the title choice is great too. Could alude to casting a light upon a site I find a bit too dark.
ReplyDeleteHi Tbaoo said: i still can't post a comment on the blogger sites - could you please pop it online for me .. what a tremendous post, one day i might try and get serious, to share with others, either on tbaoo or indeed a guest. you've inspired me to at least thing about it - well done alejandro, stay at home people are to be truly commended, mums or dads. ( from another naive, humorous idiot )
ReplyDeleteGreat Post Aleandro...and Bongo! I admire your pursuit of Papa - I worked from home bringing up my son and am very glad for it!
ReplyDeleteBe well,
Ron
I admire you for choosing wisely to raise Amelie. Children grow up in the blink of an eye, and this chance to spend your time with her will never come again. Hats off to a man of character and commmon sense!
ReplyDeleteCheers!
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ReplyDeleteBongo is us!!! so true. I commend you for sharing deep feelings, the other side of you that shows great strength. It's not peachie and that's ok. Enjoy your little girl. The choices we make are ours and accepting them is half the battle. Great Job Alejandro!!!
ReplyDeleteand BB I hope you're getting the time off you need.
What a great group we have here. I love to see the interaction that takes place. I dito what SJ said "We have a wonderful connection" and I'm so glad to be a part of this community! Thank you!
hugs
Joann
THANK YOU all for your comments and encouragement for A and for BB....This has been an AWESOME experience...I love how everyone supports each other.. whether in darkness or light...I assure you that A has read all your comments and support....having A write his heart here has been an honor and privilege..Even in my darkness I can see a beautiful heart....As always....XOXOXOXO
ReplyDeleteRight! Now thats off my chest. Where's my coffee????
ReplyDeleteThanks to everyone again for taking a peek.
Cheers and happiness to all, yes that means you too BB haha
Alejandro you’re a star. I really love your guest post. Your honesty and openness is something I particularly love because it’s something I have witnessed and sensed since the first day you walked into my world... If the truth be known, I think a lot of people would like to do what you’re doing... but, because of the financial horror and uncertainty that might befall them, they don’t!!! However, you had the courage to follow your heart and to be honest, as long as a child is loved and taken care of she won’t know you don’t own your home, all she knows are her parents are there and she gets to play and be with her best friend... Her dad!
ReplyDeleteI think you’re a wonderful human being and if some people don’t get you.... so what my friend it’s their loss
Your friend AngelJane :)
As your name says you are an Angel!!
ReplyDeleteLove and hugs.